This is my post to my fellow Scaredy-cats. As the countdown has officially started until Halloween and there is only 15 days until the trick and treating begins I wanted to do a post for those of you who are like me and may like Halloween but are easily scared, those who aren’t particularly a fan of horror or anything too scary. So here are some books which feature characters associated with Halloween.
Today October 10th, Marks World Mental Health Day and I wanted to do a post dedicated to that as it’s something personal to me. I didn’t have a set plan for today’s post, I just wanted to do whatever came to me this morning. So whilst this may be a jumble of thoughts I just hope that it is somewhat helpful or offers someone a little comfort.
If you have followed my blog for a while you will know that I have Anxiety and have had Depression and I am on antidepressants at the moment. I’ve had anxiety for years, since I was about 11 and I finally got the courage to seek my doctors help when I was 20/21. For 10 years, I struggled with going out the house, staying over anywhere other than my house, some days just leaving the house at all until I finally said to myself ‘you need help’. I still have bad days, anxiety doesn’t have a magic cure. I WISH.
For years I’ve believed that I wasn’t normal because of my Anxiety and Depression and in the past few years I have learnt that nobody is normal. What even is normal?
So many people have Mental Health Issues but there is such a stigma out there that says opening up makes you weak or this whole idea that you’re not normal and it’s frustrating. A large number of celebrities have spoken out about their own struggles from Halle Berry, Stormzy, Emma Stone, Zoella, Professor Green, Lady Gaga, Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato. I could spend all day writing names on this post but the big message I want to get across is LOOK at all these celebrities, super successful people who suffer just like me and you. You can do anything you want to, your biggest dream can still come true. It will take time but you can still get there.
As I only have Anxiety and Depression, I can only comment personally on those two aspects of Mental Health Awareness but here are some tips which can be useful regardless.
Write Down Your Feelings.
Before I sought out professional help, writing down my feelings was a big reliever for my anxiety and depression. Often I felt like my head was going to explode with all these thoughts and I needed a way to relieve that so I picked up some paper and a pen and just started writing. I wrote down everything I was feeling, what I wanted to do in that moment and afterwards I felt better. I often would then destroy that paper by ripping it into tiny shreds and throwing them away telling myself I’m ripping away some of my darkest fears here.
Say Goodbye to Negative People.
This one is a hard one. You could have been friends with this person for years, I had. But they weren’t good for me. The comments they constantly make, the ‘get over it’ remarks and everything else are not something you have to accept. It will be hard but in the long run I can honestly say by cutting out those negative people, I am SO much happier. I don’t worry half as much as I did about what people think of me because I don’t have that person (who I thought was a friend) in my ear telling me to ‘go and change because you’re not wearing that.’
Saying NO is ok.
If you don’t want to go out and do something you can say NO. You are allowed to say no, you don’t have to force yourself to do anything because your friends may call you boring. Being comfortable with where you are is the main priority.
Everyone’s mental health journey is different.
What works for one person might not work for you. If you are like me and you scour the internet, blogs and YouTube looking for people who speak out about their own mental health issues for book recommendations, tips to relieve your stress and anxiety just remember that those tips might not work for you. Everyone is different, everyone has different triggers so what might work for one person might not work the same for you and that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you (something I felt) it means you just need to find something else which will work. Don’t be disheartened. Sadly there isn’t a magic cure, it is a journey.
Other helpful posts to check out
I have previously spoken about my Anxiety Journey before on my blog, please find these posts as follows if you wish to find out more, find tips or just read my rants about life with anxiety. Anxiety Rant| When things get rough. | Tips to help relieve your Anxiety. | Anxiety – My Story.
My lovely friend Michelle over at Book Adventures has also recently done some posts regarding Mental Health Awareness where she shared some book recommendations which feature characters with different Mental Health issues. Be sure to check out her posts; Mental Health Awareness Book Recommendations Part One | Part TWO
If you ever need to talk. Then I am here for you.
You are not alone.
Top Ten Tuesday is a Weekly meme set up by Broke and Bookish. I love to partake in this and see everyone’s top ten’s each week and you know I couldn’t miss the opportunity to shout out my love for some of my book boyfriends. I will fight you for them…
So here are my Top Ten Book Boyfriends, of course in no particular order because how would I choose?! Continue reading “Top TEN Book Boyfriends”
Today I wanted to do a post inspired by the lovely Izzi @ Ravenclaw Book Club.
The other day Izzi did a post on her University Reading List for her Second Year of University as she studies English Literature. You can find her post here.
Having studied English Literature at university myself I have always loved to see what other students are studying on their units and I actively try to find posts and videos on University Reading Haul’s quite often. I recently started my Masters in English Literature this week and after seeing Izzi’s post I decided I would love to do a post on the books which I am going to be studying this term. So I hope you don’t mind me stealing your idea Izzi!
Today’s post is going to be a review of The Winner’s Curse Trilogy by Marie Rutkoski. I ran a Poll on twitter to find out if people would like individual reviews for the series or if they would prefer me grouping them together and grouped won. This is going to be something I haven’t really done before so I hope you like this review like this. As always I’m going to try (I shall succeed) to be as spoiler free as possible.
Title: The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena
Genre: Mystery / Thriller
You never know what’s happening on the other side of the wall.
Your neighbour told you that she didn’t want your six-month-old daughter at the dinner party. Nothing personal, she just couldn’t stand her crying.
Your husband said it would be fine. After all, you only live next door. You’ll have the baby monitor and you’ll take it in turns to go back every half hour.
Your daughter was sleeping when you checked on her last. But now, as you race up the stairs in your deathly quiet house, your worst fears are realized. She’s gone.
You’ve never had to call the police before. But now they’re in your home, and who knows what they’ll find there.
What would you be capable of, when pushed past your limit?
So today I wanted to do a catch up on my reading challenge and year, inspired because of my birthday. I turned 23 today… Eeek I’m so old I know. Let’s pretend I’m only 18 please?
So I’m another year older (sadly) and I was thinking, how has my life changed since my last birthday? Well I got my Upper Second Class Bachelors Degree in English Literature, I got onto two masters courses with me starting one in English Studies next week and my blog reached 435 followers! Of course mixed in with all the good things, there has been some really tough times this year from deaths, to mental health issues etc but right now I’m sat writing this and thinking wow I am so lucky and I cannot believe how well my year has gone in reality. The friends I have made whilst blogging feel like friends I have known my whole life. Even though they live in Australia, France or even South Africa and me in United Kingdom it feels like we aren’t too far away. I owe this blog so much, it has helped me in so many ways and my love for reading and books has increased so much more. Continue reading “Birthday Post | Goodreads Challenge | Year Update |”
Title: Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn
Genre: Crime / Thriller
When two girls are abducted and killed in Missouri, journalist Camille Preaker is sent back to her home town to report on the crimes. Long-haunted by a childhood tragedy and estranged from her mother for years, Camille suddenly finds herself installed once again in her family’s mansion, reacquainting herself with her distant mother and the half-sister she barely knows – a precocious 13-year-old who holds a disquieting grip on the town. As Camille works to uncover the truth about these violent crimes, she finds herself identifying with the young victims – a bit too strongly. Clues keep leading to dead ends, forcing Camille to unravel the psychological puzzle of her own past to get at the story. Dogged by her own demons, Camille will have to confront what happened to her years before if she wants to survive this homecoming.
Bookstagram, Book Tube, Book Blogs – you name it I’m constantly stalking it and I always wonder about everyone’s book collections. A lot of people especially big booktubers seem to have what I would call the ‘Perfect Book Collection.’ By this I mean that it all seems to match, they have all hardback books which seem to be all perfect in size and fit perfectly together. I do like to imagine that it is only certain shelves, the ones on camera and then if you could see the other side you would have the shelves of the mismatched.
The Ultimate Dream Collections Right Here. (Pictures from Pinterest)
Title: I Hate Everyone But You by Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin
*Review copy received from Wednesday Books in exchange for an honest review*
Dear Best Friend,
I can already tell that I will hate everyone but you.
(that brunette who won’t leave you alone)
We’re still in the same room, you weirdo.
So begins a series of texts and emails sent between two best friends, Ava and Gen, as they head off to their first semesters of college on opposite sides of the country. From first loves to weird roommates, heartbreak, self-discovery, coming out and mental health, the two best friends will document every moment to each other. But as each changes and grows into her new life, will their friendship be able to survive the distance?